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Curbing Anger and Transforming It into Peaceful Conclusion



Curbing Anger and Transforming It into Peaceful Conclusion

Anger is a form of energy that wells from within. It is easier to respond to it by releasing the energy, which may be what you often do, hurting people you love or placing yourself in humiliating situations in the process. Knowing what it can potentially do, you may also decide to keep it bottled inside, careful to protect relationships and your image. However, putting a lid on this powerful emotion or not responding to it isn’t healthy either as it can simply be suppressed for a bigger or more powerful eruption at a later date, possibly causing more hurt and embarrassment.

Understanding Your Anger

You can’t avoid getting angry because it is a natural human response to a stimulus that touches a sensitive chord in you. It only becomes negative when it is transformed into excessive rage that turns off logic. Anger without the temperance of reason can make it dangerous – a plain and pure response to the sudden release of the “fight or flight” hormone called adrenaline. Later, physically drained and worried about the people you hurt, you may regret the outburst having accomplished nothing productive.

Fearful of this consequence, it is also natural to try to control your emotion by putting a lid on your simmering anger. This may also be an unproductive and unhealthy way to manage your anger. Repressing your anger may cause you to unconsciously let the steam off by becoming short-tempered, contemptuous and unhappy. All these can gradually harm relationships, not to mention consume you and your physical health.

Curbing Your Anger in a Healthy Way

Anger is innately good and responding to it is both natural and essential. But for it to be a good thing in your life, you can’t let its powerful energy be your master. You may want to curb your responses so that it won’t damage your relationships, your reputation and your health. If you want your outburst to have a peaceful resolution or conclusion, you may want to harness its energy and transform it into something positive or useful.

If you think you are under the control of your anger most of the time and you can see how it is working against you and your goals in life, it is time to consider calling Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC for professional assistance. If you want to start transforming this wasted energy into something helpful, creative and positive, it is important to learn to control your anger. Call now and request for an appointment with one of the independently contracted therapists, so you can curb your anger in a healthy way.

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Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!


Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services- Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 246-0827 (Fastest way to schedule)
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  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, NCHC and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC