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Facing the Challenge of Raising an Adolescent with Chronic Oppositional Defiance


Facing the Challenge of Raising an Adolescent with Chronic Oppositional Defiance

Parenting a child who has grown to have defiant behaviors or that has been diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) can be a different experience from that of raising an adolescent who does not exhibit these behaviors. Oppositional Defiant Disorder has been defined as a frequent and consistent behavior/expression of anger, bad temper, hostility, disagreement, defiance, and vindictiveness towards authority figures such as parents, teachers, and other elders.

As children grow they may continue behaving in a defiant manner towards authority figures, experiencing difficulty in complying with set limits or with accepting consequences. Teens possessing this level of defiance may find themselves wanting to be in control, thus when they are challenged, they may act out, sometimes even violently. Oppositional Defiant Disorder can be a challenging diagnosis that may seem to test your parenting skills.

Understanding ODD in Teens

It can be normal for children and young adults to be oppositional from time to time. They also get tired, stressed, or feel upset just like their adult counterparts. It doesn’t mean that your teenager has ODD if they appear to be uncooperative or ignore your requests from time to time. However, if you find yourself wondering why your teenager fights so hard against your authority, as if complying with your rules is equal to suffocation, their behavior may be something more.

It is possible that this is exactly how your child feels. As a parent, you may try to identify what triggers your child’s defiance. Your child’s personality can often times play a role, and they may find it difficult to comply with rules and authority. Being told “no” too often or facing a set of restrictive rules can certainly contribute to the development of defiant behavior, as can misunderstandings and misperceptions. Other factors such as depression, anxiety, and other diagnoses may have something to do with your child’s oppositional behaviors.

As you identify the factors that contribute to your child’s behavior you may be able to begin to support healthy change. Unfortunately, it is likely that your child will not always be able to avoid their triggers out there in the world. As a parent, you may be wondering how you can best support and prepare your child to manage their feelings and triggers effectively.

Seeking Long-Term Help

ODD can be a very difficult challenge for a parent to face, though difficult, help is available and recovery is possible. When your teen’s behavior has escalated from occasional defiance to chronic disrespect, aggressive and even harmful behavior, it may be time to seek treatment with a professional therapist.

Turn to Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Licensed, independently contracted counselors have the experience and training to understand and provide appropriate treatments and interventions for your child’s behaviors. Call CCS – Southern Pines, NC today to request your first appointment.

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 246-0827 (Fastest way to schedule)
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  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 14+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, NCHC and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families, Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationship, Coping Skills, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting, Christian Counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare,Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC