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Freeing Your Marriage from the Negativity of Anxiety


Freeing Your Marriage from the Negativity of Anxiety


All relationships are challenged by a number of hurdles. Couples usually have areas of differences and incompatibilities, and each of these differences can test most marriages. There are ways to build a strong marriage, but if you are feeling a strain on your relationship, anxiety may be driving a wedge into it.

Whether you or your spouse has an anxiety disorder, you may experience periods of panic, fear and a general sense of tension. The challenges couples normally come across may become exaggerated due to anxiety. An anxiety disorder can cause you or your partner to become self-absorbed and imprisoned by the thought that you are unlovable or incapable of love. Anxiety can ruin your relationship by overpowering your judgment in deciding whether being in a committed bond is a source of comfort or pain. An anxiety disorder has the power to extinguish your ability to love.


Being Married to Anxiety

The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) conducted a study on the
impact of anxiety on relationships. Although the target respondents were suffering from generalized anxiety disorder or GAD, the findings may be similar in all types of anxiety disorder. The study concludes that there is a lesser probability for GAD-affected individuals to stay in a healthy and supportive intimate relationship than people without GAD. It reveals that anxiety has a negative effect on relationships, with issues such as regular arguments, withdrawal from social activities, and loss of intimacy as the common problems experienced by seven out of ten respondents.

With anxiety standing between you and your spouse, it can cause fear or worry that may paralyze you and make you oblivious to you and your partner’s true needs. The overwhelming feelings can make it difficult to pay attention to what is happening in the relationship, and make your partner feel you do not care. Anxiety can break down the elements of trust and connection in your relationship.

Anxiety can crush your ability to express your true feelings. Keeping your feelings or emotions bottled up may eventually spiral out of control, causing you to be overwhelmed and defensive over the little attention or space you are getting. Allowing your thoughts or fears to circulate in your mind may drain your energy and make your anxiety even stronger.

The self-absorbing power of anxiety can lead you to focus too much on your perceived concerns or worries. The excessive and irrational fears you feel may put unnecessary strain on your relationship and keep you from being a compassionate partner. If your spouse is the one with an anxiety disorder, you may resent your partner’s limiting feelings and ability to perform his or her marital duties. At the same time, you may react in selfish ways as you take on the larger share of responsibilities while caring for both an anxious partner and the household.

Anxious feelings or thoughts can make it difficult to experience the pleasant joy of intimacy. The negativity that fills your mind can impair your ability to be present within your relationship and deprive you of the joy, comfort, safety, excitement, hope, and gratitude vital to a healthy marriage.


Treatment Options for an Anxiety-laden Marriage

Sharing an intimate relationship with someone with an anxiety disorder can take a toll on your psychological and emotional health. During this difficult time, it is important to properly care for your own well-being so you can remain a strong source of support for your anxious loved one. In order to maintain this, you may benefit from counseling and access the help available for the anxiety-related issues weighing you down.

If your relationship is being threatened by anxiety, it makes sense to manage anxiety symptoms through comprehensive marriage counseling. Many therapists see the advantage and necessity in including both spouses in the treatment plan, and offer marriage/couples/family counseling to address the issues within the family context.


Strengthening the Bond Weakened by Anxiety

Anxiety can have a negative impact on relationships. It is difficult to live with someone with over reactive sentiments who is on edge most of the time. Whether you or your spouse have an anxiety disorder, it is important not to be weakened by the overpowering symptoms of anxiety. Anxiety can be a serious, long term struggle that can rob you of marital happiness.

There is no need to wait until anxiety damages your marriage. You have the power to fight back by seeking specialized professional intervention to help you get off the path of anxiety. You need an ally in your relationship to help you or your spouse shift to a new and positive way of understanding. Contact Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC and be matched with an independently contracted right fit therapist. You may call, text or email. Don’t wait, call now.


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Southern Pines, NC 28387

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  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare,  Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

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    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC