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Help for Parents in Managing Family Conflict with Teen Children


Help for Parents in Managing Family Conflict with Teen Children


Most families will experience conflict at one time or another. Like any human relationship, it can be normal to have disagreements and conflicting opinions between family members. This can be particularly common when there are adolescents in the family. In many families, parents continue to take control of their teenager’s life, possibly due to the belief that their child is still not ready to make their own decisions or perhaps even as a force of habit.

When these conflicts are not managed constructively, they can have a negative impact on everyone in your family, especially your teen. Conflicts may not only cause separation among your family, they also have the ability to fuel concerning behaviors. You may find yourself wondering whether there is a way to move past family conflict without damaging family relationships.


When Fighting Feels Constant

It may seem inevitable for two or more people with distinct personalities and varying ideas to clash, even within families. Resolving these issues in a non-threatening manner, can be an effective learning experience for everyone. Problems can arise when egos or pride stand in the way of reconciliation as they often leave no space for rational thinking.

The underlying reason for most conflicts is the fear of losing control over someone or something. As a parent, you may feel afraid of losing control of your teen, fearing that their decisions may not be wise, all the while they may be trying to uphold their independence resulting in even more conflict. Family relationships can have a great deal of friction, often leading back to struggles for control.


Conflict Can Take its Toll

There is often more than one side to any conflict. When resolved in a manner acceptable to all, the family members involved in the conflict will often continue to have a peaceful relationship. If these conflicts are allowed to persist, relationships may begin to break down. Not surprisingly, unresolved conflict within your family can be the leading cause of continued tension and even symptoms of anxiety and depression. Unfortunately, there are often no winners in unresolved family conflicts as someone is often left to bear the repercussions.

When the degree and intensity of disagreement has come to the point that it is affecting the happiness, personality, or daily functioning of one or more of your family members, it may be time to seek outside intervention.


Utilizing Counseling to Resolve Family Conflict

It can be challenging to address family arguments considering the number of personalities that may be involved. Often, the roles assumed within the family are so deeply entrenched that members can simply refuse to acknowledge certain unhealthy patterns. It may take an impartial voice for your family to hear what each member has to say. In this aspect, counseling can offer a new perspective in resolving family conflicts in a healthy way.

Participate in these interventions with a licensed, independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Call today to schedule your first appointment and begin helping to bring peace and harmony back into your family.

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

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Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare,  Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC