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How Couples Can Survive Life Transitions


How Couples Can Survive Life Transitions


The decision to get married and raise a family can take couples through numerous milestones and life transitions. You may start a new career or build a business, cultivating it as you nurture your marriage and family. You may choose to have children; they may grow up and leave your nest to build their own lives, families and homes. Upon retirement, you may begin to feel that you are beginning to lose many important aspects of the life you lived for many years. You may be coping with having an empty nest, adjusting back to a home including just you and your spouse.

So many transitions can happen in a lifetime. Not every couple successfully manages these changes together. Getting the right help is something many proactive couples choose to do to keep their bond strong through these challenges.


The Life Transitions as a Young Couple

The challenges in the lives of young couples generally revolve around having children and parenting them, as well as finding a decent source of livelihood to support a growing family. Complications and conflicts enter the relationship as they meander through these challenges. Other transitions involve changing of jobs, moving to a different home or neighborhood, and/or parenting children entering adolescence. In addition, dramatic/traumatic events may also cause a drastic change in your life as a couple.


Somewhere Down the Road

As you and your spouse enter you midlife, you may start looking back and assessing what you have done in your lives and what had happened all those years past. Not everyone makes the happy discovery that they are right where they wanted to be. There are those who may shift gear and fall prey to the so called “midlife crisis.” While many will decide to stay together in marriage, there are those who begin to question whether they should leave their marriage. The results can be unpredictable; this may be a time when the help of a professional can be paramount.


Just You and Me

Upon retirement, couples face another milestone. For some it may come with losing roles at work and/or at home. The retirement may not necessarily cause a negative impact in your life as a couple; it can truly depend on the circumstances surrounding your retirement. Coming home to an empty nest may similarly affect you as you likely grew accustomed to having your children around. For some, retirement comes with freedom to pursue things you have always been interested in, but didn’t have the time to pursue such as; travel and old/new hobbies, though this may not be the case for all. For some retirement can be a time of sadness and possibly even a source of depression or anxiety.


Finding Help to Navigate Through Transitions

Couples will go through so many life transitions throughout their marriage. It can be argued that the best relationships are those that survive challenges because they seek help when needed. Often the unbiased views of a marriage counselor can help proactive spouses to see what they are having difficulty seeing or resolving on their own. This is when it may matter most to have an effective, well trained therapist. Licensed, independently contracted therapists are available and ready to help. Call Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC to schedule your first session. Begin to approach life transitions in a more positive and harmonious way, don’t wait, call today.


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Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

Our Mailing Address:

PO BOX 9909
Fayetteville, NC 28311

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 725-6336 (Fastest way to schedule)
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  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare,  Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Robin Caswell, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+), Individuals, Adults, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, ADHD, ODD, Trauma/PTSD, LGBTQ, Self-Harm, Military Family Life, Mood Disorders, OCD, Phobias
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC