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Infertility: A Source of Stress Leading to Depression or Anxiety

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Infertility: A Source of Stress Leading to Depression or Anxiety

Men and women with fertility issues are faced with a broad range of emotional concerns due to social, family, and even their own internal pressures to have their own children. This is not a small concern, considering that about 7.3 million Americans or 10 to 15 percent of reproductive-aged people across all cultures and societies are struggling with infertility. Numerous studies show the association between emotional health and infertility. While not every one of them will succumb to depression or anxiety, they are faced with a risk higher than the average American.

The Impact of Infertility on Emotional Health

For both men and women, becoming a parent is a major milestone in their lives. Thus, its non-fulfillment can give them a sense of loss of identity that may spell failure and dissatisfaction. Feeling defective and incompetent, they may perceive themselves as less of a man/woman. As people with infertility issues live with a diminished self-esteem and deep sense of loss, they may resort to social isolation, which may further cause them to feel lonely and more vulnerable to depression and anxiety.

The Link Between Emotional Issues and Infertility

Whether the infertility is directly causing the vulnerability of people with infertility issues to depression or anxiety is still not clear, but the link has been confirmed by several studies. For instance, Parikh (2000), Lukse (1999) and Chen (2004) in their separate studies conclude that the incidence of depression is significantly higher, with an incidence range of 15 to 54 percent in couples with infertility issues compared to fertile individuals (Massachusetts General Hospital). The studies also reveal that the risk for anxiety is higher for the infertile subjects, with an incidence range of 8 to 28 percent.

Infertility Treatment as a Source of Distress

A growing number of studies also show that stress continues to mount even during the treatment period when couples are undergoing medically-assisted solutions to address their infertility issues. According to the separate studies undertaken by Hammarberg (2001) Olivius (2004) and Domar (2004), stress and depressive symptoms are affecting the decisions of these couples. In fact, it is among the reasons why couples drop out of the fertility programs.

Interventions for Your Emotional Well Being

Your state of emotional health can affect the decisions you will make, which in turn may influence the success or failure of your fertility treatment. It may also affect your ability to handle stresses and challenges during treatment. In general, your emotional health is important whether your infertility issue is medically addressed or not.

To survive a fertility treatment with all its rigors and challenges, seek interventions for your emotional health. The first step is to call Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. With the assistance of a counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC, you can go through the treatment hopeful, but not desperate.

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Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

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  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 14+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, NCHC and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families, Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationship, Coping Skills, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting, Christian Counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare,Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC

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Is Clumsiness a sign your child needs counseling?

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All children pass through an awkward stage when learning and mastering certain motor skills. It is hard to say which is usual and which is not; there's an enormously broad range of what's normal when it comes to agility and coordination.

There are children who can master various coordination skills early - hand-eye/foot-eye coordination, balance and depth perception, and there are those, who will trip or fall over a lot of times, will have difficulty learning to write, and will not catch a ball thrown to them.

Why is your child clumsy? Is it just the usual type common among growing and develping children, or is it something you must worry about?

There are many possible causes of clumsiness. Initially, the most important thing to do is to seek professional help so that your child can be properly assessed.

What to Look Out For

Like other children, your son/daughter will pass through the three stages motor development and will show awkwardness and blips in the process until he/she masters the skill. While there are certain milestone developments to note such as walking before turning 1 year, it can be delayed a bit and it is still normal.

You may start getting worried when he/she shows delays in many motor skills. When you observe that your chlid is having difficulty achieving milestones in several areas, get him/her evaluated.

Evaluation is Critical

While clumsiness is a childhood "quirk" in development that is soon outgrown in time, don't just dismiss motor difficulties as normal. Evaluation is critical to rule out serious conditions and to be able to seek the right treatment or help.

Body coordination is an enormously complicated process involving input from both sensory and motor systems. Delays during the early years of development may interfere with your child's school performance and his/her ability to become socially integrated. Without help, your child may lag in school and may have difficulty relating to others. This will cause him/her to have poor self-esteem that can make him/her clumsier; other psychosocial problems can become magnified growing up.

Early Diagnosis and Treatment

If milestone developments are mostly delayed and your child is hardly mastering the critical motor skills, you may have to steer him/her away from play to give attention to practicing the motor skills. With the delay and as he/she grows older, self-consciousness or insecurities may set in as he/she fails to do what other children of the same age are doing.

Failure to master motor skills appropriate to his/her age may cause your child to shy away from the other children leading to behavioral problems and emotional stresses.

If your son/daughter is clumsy and has become withdrawn due to it and his/her other inabilities, it is a sign that he/she needs counseling before the other areas of development suffer too. "Wait and see" frequently doesn't work.

Take a proactive stance. Contact Carolina Counseling Services Southern Pines, NC for an appointment. Let us step in to assist you in empowering your son/daughter through counseling and/or referral to other therapy. Don't cause any further delay because life will not wait for your child.

Our Southern Pines office is convenient for nearby Pinehurst, Aberdeen, Carthage and Raeford. We look forward to seeing you!

Marriage Counseling: SOS for Distressed Marriages

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Everyone who is married can attest to the fact that conflict occurs in any committed relationship. Even marriages that seem ideal may suffer distress from time to time. In some cases, the troubles may escalate to a point where the couple become profoundly disappointed and refuse to stay married any longer.

The powerful effect of marital distress can take a toll on the whole family. When their parents are exhibiting great sadness, anxiety, and depression, it comes as no surprise that children raised in high-conflict homes tend to develop emotional difficulties. Ultimately, a distressed marriage may decline and end in separation or divorce.

Characterizing a Marriage That Needs Help

The causes of marital conflict vary from couple to couple, but generally manifest as difficulties with communication. Eventually, the breakdown in communication turns into endless arguing, stonewalling, sarcasm, insults, and contempt. A negative pattern of communication is the fastest way to ruin a relationship, as it will soon spill over into other parts of the marriage, such as intimacy. Instead of building connection, the spouses build a wall between them.

In other instances, couples may find themselves overwhelmed by the long-term responsibilities associated with marriage. Studies show that marital distress is highest during the early stages of marriage and childrearing. Other causes of conflict may include financial instability, unemployment, illness, substance abuse, and parenting differences.

Unresolved arguments, the loss of good feelings, and friendship that has turned into animosity are telltale signs of a distressed marriage. Loss of affection, withdrawal, physical abuse, hatred, and disconnection indicate that a marriage is in deep trouble and at high risk for divorce or separation. It’s also possible for long-term committed relationships where the partners are unmarried to experience the same kinds of problems.

Effective Help to Save or Strengthen a Marriage

Your marriage may be in distress, but it is not doomed. The problems can be corrected and the relationship can be effectively restored. Some couples have the innate ability to make their marriages work again on their own, but many others need outside help to successfully repair a relationship in distress.

No one has a perfect marriage. You can likely use a little help in working out your differences or enhancing your relationship. The marriage counselors independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC, will apply their expert training to help you navigate and overcome your difficulties. Call now to request an appointment.

Getting Relief for Depression in the Family

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The Anxiety and Depression Association of America reveals that an estimated 14.8 million Americans are experiencing major depressive disorder. Of the total population, 1.5 percent struggles with chronic mild depression, which is also known as persistent depressive disorder.

It can be difficult to watch someone in your family suffering from depression. The heavy toll of the depressive disorder does not affect the sufferer alone, but it can also have a profound impact on one’s immediate family and/or friends.

The Simple Truth about Depression

It can be difficult to explain how you feel when you are depressed. That may be because depression is a medical condition accompanied by various emotional, physical, and behavioral symptoms. It’s not a fleeting occasional mood swing or a sign of weakness. Depression can also be related to health problems or even aging.

As you get older, you may be confronted with life stressors including health problems, fears, bereavement, and/or other emotionally challenging factors that can sometimes feel like too much to handle. It can be natural to have the “blues” when you’re faced with all these stressors and eventually, the negative feelings may pass.

However, when they persist, reoccur, interfere with normal activities, and lead to other physical or psychological issues, depression may be the cause. Symptoms of depression, left untreated, will often increase in frequency and intensity, often even escalating to thoughts of ending one’s life.

Depression, despite its daunting name, can be very treatable. Most people who receive early treatment respond favorably and are able to recover. If you or a loved one is diagnosed with any form of depression, the emotional support of family and friends can make a huge difference in alleviating the condition.

It may take someone who knows you well to recognize the symptoms of depression and offer help. However, simply saying that “everything is going to be just fine” may not be enough. Instead, you may need encouragement to seek a professional evaluation so that treatment can begin.

The Impact of Depression on the Family

Depression can be hereditary. Those that have been diagnosed with depression may later identify that a parent or other family member also exhibits some of the same behaviors or tendencies. Untreated depression can cause rifts in families, leading to hurt feelings and misunderstandings.

Often times a depressed parent can look like a parent who may not care, when in reality this could not be any farther from the truth. To the same effect, a depressed teenager can appear like a teenager abusing drugs or defying authority, another possible misconception. Through proper treatment a family can rebuild and break free from the cycle of depression.

Breaking Free from Depression

Millions of individuals find relief from the gnawing feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and hurt triggered by depression through counseling. There is hope and treatment is available. Start feeling better by making a call to Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC, and allow a licensed, independently contracted therapist to help bring back normalcy to you and your family. Call today.

Our Southern Pines office also services Pinehurst, NC, Aberdeen, NC and surrounding towns and cities to include Raeford, NC and Sanford, NC