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Life with Pleasure: Can it be Possible?


Life with Pleasure: Can it be Possible?


Unlike animals, humans don’t merely indulge in eating to survive, in sex to reproduce or care for their children to perpetuate its species. People are attracted to perform these activities because these give them pleasure. It is easy to understand about the pleasures a person gets from eating, hobbies, music, exercise, social interactions, and caring for their children, etc., but there are certain aspects about it that are more a bit complicated.

So, what happens when your ability to find pleasure in the things you do is diminished, or worse, lost? Major depression episodes and other forms of mood or mental disorder can do that to you; this is called anhedonia.


The Carrot: Pleasure that Drives You

You seek pleasure as it is the carrot that draws you to do certain things. Sigmund Freud views pleasure as the feedback mechanism that you developed to motivate yourself to move towards what makes you happy and away from negative emotions such as pain or frustration.

Biologically, studies show that pleasure is deeply rooted in the brain. You are likely to experience it in your brain even with moderate indulgence, just like most people. If you have an altered brain function with blunted dopamine systems, you need more exposures to reach the same level of pleasure with addiction, or not experience pleasure at all with anhedonia.


The Blues: Despair You Must Overcome

Be aware that losing interest or pleasure on things or activities that you used to enjoy is a symptom of major depressive episode or some other mood disorder.

While feeling sad after you lose someone or something important is natural, depression is not. Its diagnosis is primarily based on reported symptoms such as despair, despondency, and lethargy, as well as changed patterns of sleep and loss of appetite. Clinical depression is characterized by anhedonia or “the blues” and is often defined as the “lack of ability to feel pleasure.”


Pleasure is Important

You probably choose to do most of the things you do make your choices based on what can give you pleasure. If pleasure is taken out of the equation, it would seem like everything you are doing is work. Imagine life without fun. What motivation do you have to eat, to hang out with people from school or work, or even have a hobby?

Without the carrot, what would motivate you to do anything?


Find Pleasure …Again

Pleasure is possible AFTER DEPRESSION. Like anyone else, you can find pleasure even with moderate indulgence once your depression has been successfully treated. It helps to live a “clean” life without drugs or alcohol, and with exercise, enough sleep, social interactions and pleasurable activities, but you may not be able to just snap out of “the blues.” Depression is a disorder. You may need to commit to short- long-term medical treatment and/or counseling to recover from a major depression.


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