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Resolve the Crucial Issues: Be Happier with Marriage Counseling


Resolve the Crucial Issues: Be Happier with Marriage Counseling


What is in marriage that makes people want to commit their life and future to it, despite the continuing challenges?

The answer is simple: the joy of going through life with the person you love. While marriage poses countless challenges, it also remains a potential source of great personal happiness. Happiness is the crux of life.

It is, however, undeniable that marital conflicts can stand in the way of marital happiness. The key is to resolve them, particularly the crucial ones. While complicated issues can cause deep wounds that are not easy to heal, it is not impossible with the assistance of a marriage counselor. This is why it is important to know when to call for help.


Beyond Happiness: The Benefits of Marriage

Aside from the benefit of being with the one you love, a National Bureau of Economic Research study reveals that married people tend to achieve greater satisfaction than those who stay unmarried. The study also supports the idea that “marriage itself contributes to happiness” with friendship as a mechanism that links satisfaction to it. In fact, many psychologists believe that the state of marriage can be used as the “single most reliable happiness indicator.”

The post in the Daily Signal that cites this study also mentions other benefits of marriage. “For instance, married adults tend to live longer and be healthier.” The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) supports this idea, saying that marriage can foster better health: married couples are less likely to drink or smoke, suffer from emotional conditions, or experience recurrent headaches than unmarried people.

Married people also tend to be more motivated and productive, so they earn more and can better support their families. Thus, being married also plays an important role in the well-being and lives of children.


The Conflicts That Burden Your Marriage

Conflicts in a marriage usually arise over topics such as money, parenting, work, and housework. Differences of opinion can’t be avoided—they are as natural and healthy as breathing and living—but yes, they can trigger conflicts.

The key is to resolve the issues through a healthy process—marriage counseling. Unfortunately, when you are in the midst of a conflict, you may become too passionate and defensive, forgetting that sustaining a loving relationship is more important than “winning” or saying, “I am right and you’re wrong.” You or your spouse may just give in or escape the scene, because that’s easier than asserting yourself. You or your spouse may also hide or manipulate facts, defy the other person, or stay meek just so the argument will end.

While these responses can certainly bring a type of peace, they aren’t healthy because the conflicts can’t be resolved in the way they should. They can grow and gnaw at your thoughts and emotions. Eventually they may seek a way out and erupt like a volcano, triggering worse and bigger conflicts.


How Marriage Counseling Can Help

Resolving marital issues is crucial to an enduring marriage and can keep your marriage a source of personal happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, and the other benefits of a happy union. Talking about problems with your spouse is good. If it isn’t working the way it used to, or you can’t seem to make any progress because one person is unresponsive or the issues are too complicated, seek the help of a professional marriage counselor.

It isn’t unusual for couples in conflict to end up arguing whenever they try to talk. If you are exchanging too many painful words that fuel more passionate exchanges and fail to resolve what needs to be addressed, you may need marriage counseling. The right counselor can provide a secure and neutral venue for productive exchanges and resolution.

Counseling can also help you develop a deeper understanding of your concerns and your spouse’s feelings. Understanding can beget appreciation, compassion, and feelings of emotional closeness. All these can inspire you to find new ways of doing things to resolve the old issues troubling your marriage. Most importantly, the desire and inspiration to improve for the better can make you and your spouse take positive action.


Call Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Unresolved conflict can test your relationship and shake its integrity and foundation. It can become a source of great dissatisfaction and unhappiness, making life miserable. If you want your marriage to be a source of happiness and satisfaction again, transform your conflicts to make them healthy and positive. Resolve your marital issues with a marriage counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC.

This may not be easy, especially when your issues are complicated, but it is doable with a marriage counselor contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Achieve a happier marriage that is resilient in the face of conflict and founded on your love, trust, and respect for each other. Call now for your appointment.

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

Our Mailing Address:

PO BOX 9909
Fayetteville, NC 28311

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 725-6336 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare,  Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Robin Caswell, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+), Individuals, Adults, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, ADHD, ODD, Trauma/PTSD, LGBTQ, Self-Harm, Military Family Life, Mood Disorders, OCD, Phobias
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC