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Surviving Loneliness and Single Parenting during Deployments

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Surviving Loneliness and Single Parenting during Deployments

People marry for love and companionship. When you marry someone who joined the military, you are also marrying for the same reasons, but this relationship may come with certain challenges that others don’t face. You are marrying for love despite the separation for long months on end, which means battling loneliness and surviving single parenting while the military husband or wife is deployed.

Winning the Battle of Emotions

Being alone isn’t easy. Your spouse’s deployment can bring about a host of intense emotions that can threaten to overwhelm you, especially when tragic events or serious crises happen while he/she is away. It would be a time when your loneliness would be so intense and you will need a strong shoulder to lean on or another soul to keep you company. Special occasions will pass without your spouse by your side. Indeed, it can be a lonely life being away from your spouse. The knowledge that your spouse may in a war-torn place compounds the anxiety and the fears.

Solo Parenting for Two

Parenting even with your spouse can be difficult; parenting is extra hard when you have to face all challenges alone. If you have children, the loneliness may be more bearable, but single parenting isn’t something that every military spouse can easily grasp. The younger and the more children you have, the more physically demanding is the task. The older the children are, the more emotionally embattled you will be. You will be working for long hours, from the crack of dawn to late in the evening. If you keep a job, you’ll find yourself sleeping on the job and too tired to focus on what you are doing.

The Help that Works

It is not surprising to know that the statistics for divorce, as well as anxiety disorders, depression, sleep disorder, and other psychological health problems are higher among military families. Being left at home, how do you fight loneliness? In the midst of trials, who do you turn to? When your children cry out calling the name of the deployed parent, how can you stop yourself from crying and stay strong for everyone?

Loneliness isn’t an easy thing to work through; it isn’t what you bargained for in marriage, despite the knowledge you are marrying someone in the service. Being a “strong” parent while your spouse is away can be physically and emotionally draining. To get through the crises and embrace solo parenting, accept that you may need help. In North Carolina, you can find that help from the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. In the face of all challenges, you don’t have to be weak or to give up everything; call Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC.

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Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

 

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services –  Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

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Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

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  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
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  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 14+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families, Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationship, Coping Skills, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting, Christian Counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare,Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

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    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

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    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC