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Resolving Marital Issues: The Key to Long Years Together



Resolving Marital Issues: The Key to Long Years Together

A couple who’s been married for 50 years (or longer) is phenomenal. Not many can achieve that, even if both will stay healthy that long. If you will ask them what kept them together, don’t be surprised to discover that their marriage is not “made in heaven.” They will admit their own weaknesses, pitfalls and mistakes. Like any couple, their relationship must have gone through some rough times, but they were able to resolve their conflicts to maintain harmony in the home front.

Love has Nothing to Do With Conflicts

Even the most in-love couples will not be spared from conflicts. These are bound to happen in every kind of relationship because being different is natural and having different perceptions, opinions, beliefs and convictions are normal. Your abilities to resolve marital issues affecting your relationships can determine whether your marriage can last for many, many years, or not.

Many marriages end in divorce, not because there is no love in marriage, but because they were not able to successfully handle their conflicts. The failure can cause them to feel anger, resentment, bitterness, hurt, and frustration. These may overwhelm or push them away from the home.

Discovering Conflict Resolution

There are too many stresses in any marriage and family. There are day-to-day sources of conflicts ranging from small matters, such as division of labor and time management issues, to major conflicts that may involve finances, vices, problematic children and different parenting styles. Not a day will pass when your lives will be a hundred percent stress free. Be consoled by the fact that it is the same with other couples and families.

Conflicts are a fact of life. When faced with conflicts, try to resolve them without resorting to a verbal or physical abuse. Conflict resolution involves finding a peaceful solution through effective use of communication.

Learning Conflict Resolution

Conflicts are not simple misunderstandings or disagreements. They can trigger intense emotions that will fester if you will not give them your attention. They will not go away or become less intense. In the long run, they will eat you up until the supposedly simple matters will be blown out of proportion. Hence, for a relationship to survive these conflicts, you must face and resolve them with a good sense of fairness.

If conflicts are building up, consider learning the basic skills of conflict resolution from a competent, independently contracted therapist of Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. When it comes to saving a marriage or keeping a family intact and loving, nothing is too late. The key to long years of marriage is in your hands; start harnessing conflicts as a chance to improve your relationship within your home by taking this first step.

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!


Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines, NC, Aberdeen, NC, Pinehurst, NC, Raeford,NC Carthage, NC, Vass, NC, Robbins, NC, Whispering Pines, NC, Cameron, NC, Pinebluff, NC, Foxfire, NC, Seven Lakes, NC, West End, NC, Jackson Springs, NC, Eagle Springs, NC[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 246-0827 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, NCHC and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC