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Southern Pines, NC 28387

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Counseling services for Adults, IndividualsCouplesChildren, Teens
and Families are provided by independently contracted licensed therapists.

Carolina Counseling Services contracts with therapists who are friendly, caring and professional. Each independently contracted therapist in the Southern Pines, NC office is pleased to help you or your family member achieve the needed/wanted changes that will help you enjoy your life.

* Note that on this website, the words “counselor and “therapist” are used interchangeably.

The importance of finding the right fit when you are searching for a therapist or counselor cannot be mentioned enough. That is one reason that you can read about each independently contracted therapist on each page and on the profile page.

When you call to schedule your appt, you can either request a specific therapist or ask the receptionist who she thinks might be the best fit for you.

When you meet your counselor, it is necessary to be honest about issues, concerns, symptoms, and changes you are wanting to make. The therapist will discuss the treatment process and you can ask any questions that you like. If the therapist does not believe they will be the best fit for you, they will discuss options with you. You receiving the help you need/want is at the top of our priority list.

Our Southern Pines office also services Pinehurst, NC, Aberdeen, NC and surrounding towns and cities to include Raeford, NC and Sanford, NC.

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These words are often used interchangeably in English: “Therapy”, “Counseling” and “Psychotherapy”. Similarly, this applies “Counselor”, “Therapist” and “Psychologist”. Regardless of the word or phrase used, when needed, it is most helpful to talk to someone who is experienced and trained in helping others.

A friendly, caring Counselor, Psychologist or Therapist who is professionally licensed and experienced is most likely to be able to help the most. You don’t have to work your issues out alone. The independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are the licensed, friendly professionals that you have been looking for! Call or text now to schedule your appointment!

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Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St., Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

7 Signs it is Time for you to bring your child to counseling


It’s sometimes tough to tell when a child needs outside help. As a parent, determining if your child needs counseling can depend on many factors such as the child’s age and what specific problems he/she is facing. In order to help you make a more educated decision, we’ve compiled a list below of 7 signs that parents of children with anxiety, depression, and other issues have identified as “sure signs that your child needs to see a counselor.”

1. When siblings are scared, unhappy, or uncomfortable with a problem child’s behavior. Siblings can tell you a great deal about your problem child’s state. It is normal for siblings to fight and get on each other’s nerves sometimes, but if a sibling becomes genuinely afraid or uncomfortable around the problem child, it may be time to see a counselor.

2. When the child’s behavior disrupts his daily life or the lives of those around him/her. Yes, bad behavior in children is a normal part of the growing up cycle, but when bad behavior consistently interferes with your child and/or other’s daily lives, it may be time to seek counseling.

3. When you child has an unreasonable or exaggerated refusal to go to school. Oftentimes this is a sign of separation issues with the parent, causing the child to be reclusive from other children at school. Other symptoms of separation issues may be fear of sleeping alone and anxiety when being separated form you at any point. If this is the case, it is probably time to see a counselor.

4. When bad behavioral problems are consistent. Many times children react negatively to a change in environment, be it a new school, new friends or whatever else. This negative reaction is a normal part of the human psyche, however, if the negativity turns into consistent bad behavior overtime, it may be time to see a counselor.

5. When the child’s behavior is severe or potentially life threatening. Depending on the age of the child, you will have to determine what “severe behavior” means. For example, if they are lighting fires, deliberately harming themselves, or behaving in any sort of life threatening, it is time to take them to a counselor as soon as possible.

6. When your marriage is put at odds. This may sound extreme, but the decision on how to handle your problem child can put a tough tension on your relationship with your spouse. If your child is constantly affecting your mood and in turn affects the marital relationship, it is time to seek professional help.

7. When you, as a parent, don’t know what else to do. Sometimes, as a parent, you feel like you’ve tried everything you possibly can, but your child is still problematic. Don’t worry, Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC can help. Contact us at 910-725-6336.


Depression: What’s Your “Enemy” Like?


Feeling sad is a natural reaction when something unpleasant happens: you failed an exam, went through a divorce, got diagnosed with a life-changing/chronic condition, etc. Though you may describe your state of emotion as “depressed,” it could just be a negative feeling that is transient and will go away after a while.

The word “depression” is popularly used to describe the negative mood or feeling of sadness. When the word is used by a health provider, however, they generally mean the emotional condition of clinical depression, which has more persistent symptoms.

What Is Clinical Depression?

Depression is a leading health concern around the globe that is growing at an unbelievable rate.
According to Seligman, “There is 10 times more major depression in people born after 1945 than in those born before.” There are estimates that 35-40 million Americans “will suffer from major depression at some time during their lives.” About 50 percent of them are expected to suffer from recurrent symptoms.

Clinical depression is characterized by the occurrence of a major depressive episode.
According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, it “is a condition in which a person feels discouraged, sad, hopeless, unmotivated, or disinterested in life in general.” The condition can interfere with your everyday life or activities and affect your interactions with other people.

Beyond Blues

Depression isn’t just about feeling sad. It has symptoms that will change a lot of things in your life. It can zap your energy, making you feel sick and weak. It can distort your mental processes and make focusing extremely challenging. It can make you lose or gain weight as you eat and sleep too little or too much.

It is not always easy to recognize the symptoms of depression. They can take on many guises, so you may think it is a medical condition or another emotional condition, such as anxiety. Without treatment, the symptoms are not likely to dissipate. If they persist for two weeks or longer or they become too intense, it is best to see a therapist. A trained professional can diagnose you and assess your symptoms as a basis of treatment. Seeing a professional is the first step in overcoming depression.

Recovering from Depression

Hitting rock bottom happens to many people. It can trigger an avalanche of negative feelings and depression, but there is no reason to stay there. If this happens to you and you can’t seem to extricate yourself from its powerful grip, find help from Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Though it may seem like things will never be right again, stay positive, because depression is treatable.

If you call Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC, an independently contracted therapist can work with you to help you bounce back from the overwhelming symptoms of depression.


Help Is Available for Anxiety-Related Issues


Are you often worried that something bad might happen to you, but you don’t know what it is exactly? Do you lie awake and agitated at night? Do you feel you have no control of what’s happening in your life? If you often feel nervous, irritated, and restless, and have sleeping problems, you may be one of the 40 million Americans over the age of 18 with an anxiety disorder.

Possible Causes of Anxiety

While it’s normal to worry or feel nervous from time to time, anxiety can become a disorder when it takes over your life. It may be the result of a traumatic event, such as a tragic car accident or physical abuse. The condition may also be hereditary, or develop in childhood if you were raised with a great deal of instability.

The amount and intensity of anxiety are different for everyone. It can occur even without previous experiences of abuse, leaving you confused about why you feel anxious. In this sense, anxiety is no longer rational, but a disorder. Fortunately, a variety of treatment options are available to help manage the symptoms.

The Many Manifestations of Anxiety

Anxiety can leave you embarrassed and cause you to withdraw from enjoyable activities in an attempt to hide the symptoms. An anxiety or panic attack is often characterized by muscle tension, excessive sweating, indigestion, elevated heart rate, lack of concentration, restlessness, etc. The condition is different from the normal “fight-or-flight response,” a physiological reaction prompted by the brain as it tries to protect you from danger. Instead, it causes irrational thoughts or beliefs that make you think there is danger when there is none.

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), many people with anxiety do not seek help because they are in denial or they fear what people may think. It’s important to remember that there’s no need to be ashamed of having an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is treatable, but without intervention, it can seriously affect your psychological and physical health. It can have negative repercussions for your relationships and your career, and cause you to miss out on enjoyable parts of life.

Where to Find Help

Carolina Counseling Services in Southern Pines, NC, has independently contracted counselors with many years of experience and training in the most innovative ways to treat anxiety disorders. Just make a call. It’s the first step in accessing the help you need so you can enjoy life without having to feel irrational fear.


Marriage Counseling: Proactively Building an Enduring Marriage

Despite the love between husbands and wives, conflicts may likely occur in many marriages, which justifies the desire to work on it. It can be beneficial to resolve concerns that may arise during your relationship, and to strengthen it proactively, by preventing small disagreements from becoming major issues. Disregarding issues may seem to give you a little peace in the short term, but they can build up over time if ignored. Resolving the issues through marriage counseling is a healthy and proactive way to help a marriage endure.

If your marital issues are ignored, they can increase and start to weaken your bond and threaten your union. It’s typically not too late to seek help from a marriage counselor. Usually, there are warning signs before this happens. Some signs to watch out for are:

• Talking with each other usually ends up in an argument. Talking can be a vital part of communication between you and your spouse. If you don’t seem to speak to each other peacefully and have civil conversations, talking can become a way of hurting each other more. When angered and frustrated people can use negative language they may not really mean, which can breed deeper hurt and animosity.

• You argue about the same issues again and again. Arguing about the same issues, over and over, may indicate you have not resolved them. It may also mean you or your spouse, or both of you, have not completely forgiven each other for past mistakes.

• Secrets are kept from one another. Independence can be a characteristic maintained by people in a loving relationship, but there are certain matters that should be shared between spouses. When you or your spouse withhold too much information and seem to keep a lot of secrets, it can be an unhealthy sign you should pay attention to.

• You avoid intimate moments. Intimacy can be a reflection of your love for one another. While it may not be a perfect gauge, avoiding intimacy can be sign of other problems in your marriage.

You may be going through marital struggles even though you love each other and want to remain together. You probably want to protect your marriage from these troubles and resolve your issues; and continue to fortify your love, trust, and respect for each other. This can be accomplished by seeking help from a caring and skilled marriage counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Marriage counseling can also be a way to build a harmonious, loving, and lasting union. Call, text, or email CSS today to make an appointment!


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Unlocking the Language of Psychobabble

Counseling or therapy can be an unnerving and disorienting experience for those deciding to seek it. A lot of times, diagnosis and treatment are difficult to get your arms around because you may feel like you need to learn a new language: psychobabble.

Psychobabble is the use of psychological terms out of their proper context. These words are commonly used by people without appropriate knowledge and credentials to interpret the terms accurately. Originally, these are diagnostic terms in psychiatry and psychology that were picked up by non-professionals and then used incorrectly. The popularity of self-help books has also contributed to the rise of psychobabble, since the words are used freely without verification from a credible professional.

Psychobabble Buzzwords

These are some specific popular words that are making the rounds:

Mental Health and Behavioral Health: The terms “mental health” and “behavioral health” are often used interchangeably. For purposes of distinction, these words can be defined in relation to how one thinks (mental) and behaves (behavior).

While many people are more familiar with the term “mental health,” the use of “behavioral health” is now preferred to avoid the strong stigma attached to the former.
Behavioral health is an interdisciplinary science that encompasses all mental health concerns, including substance abuse and other psychological issues. Switching words may help people feel more inclined to seek professional intervention without being tagged as “crazy.”

Dysfunctional: Another psychobabble buzzword is the term “dysfunctional.” Many interpretations can be given, but they don’t really define what the word specifically means. For example, the statement “He is from a dysfunctional family” can only be correct if there is abuse or mental illness running in the family. The term “dysfunctional” has become psychobabble because it is now commonly used to mean a family occasionally experiencing rough times.

Terms for Mental and Behavioral Health Care Providers

Behavioral health care is a profession that involves establishing a vibrant and dynamic relationship between an expert and a client. Ideally, the client is able to trust the therapist while being honest about the facts. Trust enables you to reveal your thoughts and feelings, but it also makes you vulnerable when it comes to the emotions, feelings, and thoughts you may have about the health provider.

It can be perplexing for potential clients to be confronted with so many specialties, theories, and practitioners to choose from. Thus, it is important that you understand what kind of assistance and support can be provided for your unique needs.
Finding the right professional requires some basic knowledge about what each type of practitioner can offer to help you manage your behavioral health concerns.

Professionals who provide assistance to people in resolving their mental and behavioral issues are called “mental health counselors.” It is a general term applied to counselors, therapists, life coaches, psychologists, psychiatrists, and others. However, these different types of professionals have different training, experience, and insights attached to their titles and labels.

Psychiatrists: These medical doctors (MD) have training in behavioral health. They are licensed to diagnose and prescribe medications to treat behavioral health conditions. Many psychiatrists undergo a one-year fellowship training to specialize in specific fields of psychiatry, such as child and adolescent psychiatry, addiction psychiatry, forensic psychiatry, and geriatric psychiatry.

Due to the shortage of psychiatrists in the state of North Carolina, most of these professionals can provide an evaluation for 30 minutes to an hour during the initial session and then offer shorter succeeding sessions for medication management.

Most psychiatrists prefer their patients also see a “counselor” for ongoing psychotherapy. The many types of counselors are listed below:

Psychologists: These experts spend an average of five to seven years to earn a doctoral degree in psychology (PhD or PsyD). Psychologists gain licensure after at least two years of supervised work and passing the national exam. Those who work in clinical settings diagnose, offer psychotherapy, and facilitate psychological testing. They cannot, however, prescribe medicine in NC like psychiatrists do.

Licensed Clinical Social Workers: These specialists have a master’s degree in social work(MSW) and are licensed to practice psychotherapy after fulfilling the state requirements, which include passing a National Exam. They must have two years of supervised work within programs, institutions, and groups that provide macro-level service to people in health-related settings.

Licensed Professional Counselors: Their master’s or doctorate degree in counseling and 3,000 hours of post-master’s experience qualify them as specialists in psychotherapy. In addition, they must pass state-specific licensing exams to diagnose and treat certain issues like substance abuse and marital distress.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFT) are counselors with a master’s degree and training in marital and family therapy. They must have at least two years of clinical experience before taking the licensure exam. They are trained to diagnose individuals, couples, and groups in areas within the family context.

Pastoral Counselors: With a combination of psychology and theology degrees, these experts provide counseling services and spiritual guidance to their clients. Whether they are clergy or others, pastoral counselors may also have a master’s degree in divinity to apply to a clinical practice that integrates psychology and theology.

Doing Away with Psychobabble

If you’re receiving treatment for any psychological, emotional, or behavioral health issue, you may be concerned if your provider speaks in psychobabble instead of explaining matters clearly and coherently. This can interfere with your ability to understand the diagnosis or treatment, and discourage you from seeking further treatment.

Make this the least of your worries when you consider getting help from Carolina Counseling Services in Southern Pines, NC. Our independently contracted counselors understand psychological terms and try their best to use clear and appropriate language to help clients maintain awareness and understanding of any given diagnosis.

Knowing Whom to Call for Help

If you or someone you care about is experiencing psychological, emotional, or behavioral health issues, you may benefit from psychotherapy. After knowing the basic differences between the different health providers, you can make an informed decision about whom to get help from. If your concerns are related to neurological and physiological health, consider making an appointment with a psychiatrist or psychologist. If they are more about day-to-day issues, seeing a licensed social worker or a counselor may be more helpful.

Don’t dismiss your mental or behavioral health problems and think they are not real just because some psychological terms confuse you. When you’re overwhelmed with the symptoms of an emotional condition, contact
Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC
. Our counselors will not play down your concerns with words, but will provide appropriate diagnosis and treatment. Call now to request an appointment.

Our Mission

Our mission is to contract with licensed therapists/psychologists who are client centered/focused, who are caring, friendly and helpful and who are able and willing to help you resolve you/your family issues. We care about ensuring those who need assistance, get it from those who are best qualified to give it. It is our pleasure to assist you in finding the right fit.

For further enquiries, comments or advices, kindly contact us in one of the 3 ways we described on each page of this website.

When you need an expert who can help…contact Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC.

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Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

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Adjustment Challenges: Facing them Positively with a Counselor

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Over the course of a lifetime, you are bound to experience a significant amount of change. In adolescence, these changes may be related to sexuality, family conflicts, social pressures, or relationships. If you’re an adult, you may be facing divorce, retirement, or financial changes that you find it challenging to adjust to. These life transitions may unduly weigh you down. Seeking intervention from a counselor may help you face and adjust to the changes you can’t control.

When Is Change Beneficial?

There are certain changes that may cause anxiety despite being exciting. Entering a new school, starting a dream job, getting married, or being pregnant are positive changes that can earn you a degree, lead to excelling in your career, or start a family. Who wouldn’t be excited about them?

On the other hand, there are difficult changes that can nonetheless make you stronger, more confident, and better equipped for the consequences. Changes that are not warranted or to your liking may also work to your advantage.

For example, if you or a loved one has been diagnosed with depression, the changes it brings may help increase your awareness about this emotional health condition. The knowledge can save more members of your family who may be vulnerable to depression. If you’re a parent of a teen with self-harming behavior, you can reach out to other parents who may be struggling with the same issue. Both negative and positive changes can help you understand what is important in life and allow for greater self-discovery.

Living with Adjustment Issues

Change can cause emotional disruption that significantly affects your daily life. Some people are more resilient and find it easier to handle traumatic life changes and events. If you are not confident in your ability to manage adjustment issues on your own, they may overpower you and transform you into a nervous wreck. You may develop insomnia, lose appetite, or seek relief in alcohol or drugs.

Some traumatic life changes can disable or disrupt a person’s ability to adjust. After such events, you may have difficulty adjusting to the consequences or new circumstances brought about by the change. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual lists the symptoms of adjustment disorder that usually occur within three months after the onset of a change. This includes depression, anxiety, feeling emotionally overwhelmed, panic, changes in sleeping or eating patterns, and loss of interest in enjoyable activities.

Adjustment issues may also give rise to self-harm and destructive or risky activities. If you’re experiencing more emotional turmoil than those in similar situations, you could have adjustment disorder. For example, it’s understandable to grieve the loss of a spouse, but if you stop speaking to your children and refuse to leave your room, it’s definitely time to seek counseling to face the adjustment challenges positively.

Seeking Counseling for the Big Change

Any number of life-changing events can take you off course. Most of the time, it helps to talk about your problems. You may find relief discussing them with another person. While talking to a friend can help you release your emotions, it can be difficult to burden loved ones with them. You may also wonder if your secrets are safe with them. This is why it is beneficial to talk to a therapist in such cases.

Counseling can be very helpful when the stressors or events related to your issues are making you extremely distressed or out of control. When the stressors make you feel anxious, sad, or reckless to the point that it affects your work, school, or relationships, it’s worth seeing a counselor to help you feel better. Untreated symptoms can turn into other serious psychological health problems.

If the specific signs and symptoms of adjustment disorder make life difficult for you, help from an experienced counselor is most effective when sought early on. The good news is that the prognosis for individuals with adjustment disorder is good. Research shows that seeking professional intervention, especially within three months after the stressful event, can yield positive results.

Counseling is especially essential when life changes challenge your ability to adjust. Don’t let the symptoms become intrusive enough to control you. If a recent stressful event or a major life change is making you overly anxious, seek support from Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC. Our independently contracted counselors are properly trained and have long years of experience in treating adjustment disorder. The right-fit therapist will work with you to identify the root cause of your vulnerability and provide you with invaluable skills to manage the symptoms.

Get your life back on track. With CCS-Southern Pines, NC, you’ll receive appropriate treatment from a licensed, contracted counselor so you can face life positively again. The sooner you address the issue; the sooner you can resume enjoying life. Call now to request an appointment.

Military Spouses: Seeing PCS in a New Light

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When a permanent change of station (PCS) order comes for a military family, it doesn’t come with a tidy checklist that tells spouses exactly what to expect during the move. There is no shortage of helpful advice on making it easier to live in a new place, but despite all the advance information and no matter how many times a PCS has been served, it is always an uncertain and scary time for the family.

A PCS order is inevitable in an active duty service member’s career. More than half of the 1.4 million American soldiers who are married have at least one change of station order every 30 to 48 months; they have to be prepared to move quickly. As a military spouse with a family in tow, your priorities may include setting up a comfortable home, finding a good school for the children, adapting to a new culture, etc. How will you look ahead and maintain a positive attitude throughout the process?

When Emotions Start to Swell

Moving to a new duty station can be the start of an exciting and challenging new chapter in your life. Your entire life is in a box waiting to be transported to a place you may not know. The move may offer a fresh start, giving you the opportunity to examine your own life and improve on your weaknesses, but it can also take a toll on your emotional health as the PCS blues kick in.

Experts say that moving is the third most stressful life event next to divorce and death of a loved one. For military spouses, it is a way of life, but it is totally possible to experience a sense of dread with each PCS even if you’re a seasoned mover. It involves leaving the familiar comfort of a community with immediate family and friends, worrying about how the children will handle the change, and worrying over the uncertainty of the future.

All these things can wreak havoc on your emotions. Even if you don’t reach the level of clinical depression, you may be on the borderline of anxiety or sadness as you walk away from the life you knew.

Some Things Are Not Worth Stressing About

Without a doubt, moving is always tense. The best part of it, though, is that the disruptions are usually temporary. When you look at it in hindsight, you may realize that it’s the little things that make the process overwhelming, and they were not worth your worry after all.

It’s normal to feel an initial wave of apprehension, but as a military spouse, you know that PCS orders are part of military life. It’s sad to leave many important people and memorable places behind, but stay positive. In the coming days, it is best to look at the encouraging side: there will be new friends to meet, new places to visit, and new wonderful opportunities. Be hopeful that before long, you will be back on track, feeling like you’re home again with your family.

However, despite these consoling thoughts, the challenges of a PCS may still become too much to handle for you and your children. If this is the case, consider seeking professional help.

Kiss the PCS Blues Goodbye

A PCS move is like riding an emotional roller coaster that takes you in many different directions. You may have good and bad days. If you feel like the bad outnumber the good and the move is taking a toll on your emotional health, reach out for help. Admitting that you need help is not something to be ashamed of. It’s a sign of being a fearless and strong military spouse.

Seeking professional care can be challenging, especially during a move when your trusted health provider is in your previous location. Where do you seek help? In the Southern Pines, NC, area, turn to Carolina Counseling Services for independently contracted counselors who can help you navigate the difficulties associated with a PCS move. Our contracted counselors are TRICARE providers, and a doctor’s referral is not required before getting counseling.

With help from CCS - Southern Pines, NC, you can see your PCS order in an entirely new light and feel excited about making a fresh start with your family. Call now to request an appointment.

Child Counseling: Building a Memorable Childhood

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Childhood is a precious time in your child’s life. It is a time to be carefree and to have fun. It can be a wonderful time to create beautiful memories that your child can forever hold dear, inspiring them for years to come. Their experiences can determine their character, mold certain aspects of their life, and shape their future as the foundation of your child’s life is laid down. Now is a very important time to encourage and support them.

To ensure their healthy development, it is also critical that their overall physical and emotional wellness is nurtured. Just as a happy, rewarding childhood can be a sustaining force in their life, an unhappy childhood can hinder their chances for a fulfilling future. As a parent, you can seek help from a child counselor to make a difference in their life.

Emotional Challenges During Childhood

Children may encounter challenges that can confuse, traumatize or distress them. The National Institute of Mental Health says that over 20 percent of children in the United States are weighed down by some form of emotional issue or condition, such as depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, as well as attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorders. Having one of these can prevent them from having a happy, memorable childhood.

Watching your child go through struggles can be discouraging and may make you feel powerless. Though your circumstances may seem overwhelming, stay positive. Counseling can identify and resolve your child’s emotional issue or condition. With the assistance of a good counselor, your child can bounce back from a troubled childhood to go on and enjoy a satisfying life and a promising future.

Creating a Satisfying Childhood

It may not be easy for a child to understand many of their challenges. Consequently, they may respond to them in ways you may describe as “bad behavior.” Your child may be distressed, angry, confused or anxious, they stand to suffer as other children may avoid them. Unfortunately, these attitudes may not always be passing phases. What can alleviate your child’s underlying concerns is the guidance and help of a counselor.

Your love and care as a parent can be best complemented by a counselor who has the experience and tools to help you and your child. Counseling is empowering, as it provides you good options to explore the roots of your child’s emotional issues. You can help your child with their struggles and let them better enjoy their childhood. A counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC, is ready to help you and your child. Call CCS - Southern Pines, NC for your first appointment today!

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Therapist Information

View the independently contracted, Caring, Licensed Therapists. Who is the Best Fit for you?

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

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    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Robin Caswell, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+), Individuals, Adults, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, ADHD, ODD, Trauma/PTSD, LGBTQ, Self-Harm, Military Family Life, Mood Disorders, OCD, Phobias
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC

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Is Clumsiness a sign your child needs counseling?

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All children pass through an awkward stage when learning and mastering certain motor skills. It is hard to say which is usual and which is not; there's an enormously broad range of what's normal when it comes to agility and coordination.

There are children who can master various coordination skills early - hand-eye/foot-eye coordination, balance and depth perception, and there are those, who will trip or fall over a lot of times, will have difficulty learning to write, and will not catch a ball thrown to them.

Why is your child clumsy? Is it just the usual type common among growing and develping children, or is it something you must worry about?

There are many possible causes of clumsiness. Initially, the most important thing to do is to seek professional help so that your child can be properly assessed.

What to Look Out For

Like other children, your son/daughter will pass through the three stages motor development and will show awkwardness and blips in the process until he/she masters the skill. While there are certain milestone developments to note such as walking before turning 1 year, it can be delayed a bit and it is still normal.

You may start getting worried when he/she shows delays in many motor skills. When you observe that your chlid is having difficulty achieving milestones in several areas, get him/her evaluated.

Evaluation is Critical

While clumsiness is a childhood "quirk" in development that is soon outgrown in time, don't just dismiss motor difficulties as normal. Evaluation is critical to rule out serious conditions and to be able to seek the right treatment or help.

Body coordination is an enormously complicated process involving input from both sensory and motor systems. Delays during the early years of development may interfere with your child's school performance and his/her ability to become socially integrated. Without help, your child may lag in school and may have difficulty relating to others. This will cause him/her to have poor self-esteem that can make him/her clumsier; other psychosocial problems can become magnified growing up.

Early Diagnosis and Treatment

If milestone developments are mostly delayed and your child is hardly mastering the critical motor skills, you may have to steer him/her away from play to give attention to practicing the motor skills. With the delay and as he/she grows older, self-consciousness or insecurities may set in as he/she fails to do what other children of the same age are doing.

Failure to master motor skills appropriate to his/her age may cause your child to shy away from the other children leading to behavioral problems and emotional stresses.

If your son/daughter is clumsy and has become withdrawn due to it and his/her other inabilities, it is a sign that he/she needs counseling before the other areas of development suffer too. "Wait and see" frequently doesn't work.

Take a proactive stance. Contact Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC for an appointment. Let us step in to assist you in empowering your son/daughter through counseling and/or referral to other therapy. Don't cause any further delay because life will not wait for your child.

Our Southern Pines office is convenient for nearby Pinehurst, Aberdeen, Carthage and Raeford. We look forward to seeing you!

Marriage Counseling: SOS for Distressed Marriages

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Everyone who is married can attest to the fact that conflict occurs in any committed relationship. Even marriages that seem ideal may suffer distress from time to time. In some cases, the troubles may escalate to a point where the couple become profoundly disappointed and refuse to stay married any longer.

The powerful effect of marital distress can take a toll on the whole family. When their parents are exhibiting great sadness, anxiety, and depression, it comes as no surprise that children raised in high-conflict homes tend to develop emotional difficulties. Ultimately, a distressed marriage may decline and end in separation or divorce.

Characterizing a Marriage That Needs Help

The causes of marital conflict vary from couple to couple, but generally manifest as difficulties with communication. Eventually, the breakdown in communication turns into endless arguing, stonewalling, sarcasm, insults, and contempt. A negative pattern of communication is the fastest way to ruin a relationship, as it will soon spill over into other parts of the marriage, such as intimacy. Instead of building connection, the spouses build a wall between them.

In other instances, couples may find themselves overwhelmed by the long-term responsibilities associated with marriage. Studies show that marital distress is highest during the early stages of marriage and childrearing. Other causes of conflict may include financial instability, unemployment, illness, substance abuse, and parenting differences.

Unresolved arguments, the loss of good feelings, and friendship that has turned into animosity are telltale signs of a distressed marriage. Loss of affection, withdrawal, physical abuse, hatred, and disconnection indicate that a marriage is in deep trouble and at high risk for divorce or separation. It’s also possible for long-term committed relationships where the partners are unmarried to experience the same kinds of problems.

Effective Help to Save or Strengthen a Marriage

Your marriage may be in distress, but it is not doomed. The problems can be corrected and the relationship can be effectively restored. Some couples have the innate ability to make their marriages work again on their own, but many others need outside help to successfully repair a relationship in distress.

No one has a perfect marriage. You can likely use a little help in working out your differences or enhancing your relationship. The marriage counselors independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC, will apply their expert training to help you navigate and overcome your difficulties. Call now to request an appointment.

Getting Relief for Depression in the Family

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The Anxiety and Depression Association of America reveals that an estimated 14.8 million Americans are experiencing major depressive disorder. Of the total population, 1.5 percent struggles with chronic mild depression, which is also known as persistent depressive disorder.

It can be difficult to watch someone in your family suffering from depression. The heavy toll of the depressive disorder does not affect the sufferer alone, but it can also have a profound impact on one’s immediate family and/or friends.

The Simple Truth about Depression

It can be difficult to explain how you feel when you are depressed. That may be because depression is a medical condition accompanied by various emotional, physical, and behavioral symptoms. It’s not a fleeting occasional mood swing or a sign of weakness. Depression can also be related to health problems or even aging.

As you get older, you may be confronted with life stressors including health problems, fears, bereavement, and/or other emotionally challenging factors that can sometimes feel like too much to handle. It can be natural to have the “blues” when you’re faced with all these stressors and eventually, the negative feelings may pass.

However, when they persist, reoccur, interfere with normal activities, and lead to other physical or psychological issues, depression may be the cause. Symptoms of depression, left untreated, will often increase in frequency and intensity, often even escalating to thoughts of ending one’s life.

Depression, despite its daunting name, can be very treatable. Most people who receive early treatment respond favorably and are able to recover. If you or a loved one is diagnosed with any form of depression, the emotional support of family and friends can make a huge difference in alleviating the condition.

It may take someone who knows you well to recognize the symptoms of depression and offer help. However, simply saying that “everything is going to be just fine” may not be enough. Instead, you may need encouragement to seek a professional evaluation so that treatment can begin.

The Impact of Depression on the Family

Depression can be hereditary. Those that have been diagnosed with depression may later identify that a parent or other family member also exhibits some of the same behaviors or tendencies. Untreated depression can cause rifts in families, leading to hurt feelings and misunderstandings.

Often times a depressed parent can look like a parent who may not care, when in reality this could not be any farther from the truth. To the same effect, a depressed teenager can appear like a teenager abusing drugs or defying authority, another possible misconception. Through proper treatment a family can rebuild and break free from the cycle of depression.

Breaking Free from Depression

Millions of individuals find relief from the gnawing feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and hurt triggered by depression through counseling. There is hope and treatment is available. Start feeling better by making a call to Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC, and allow a licensed, independently contracted therapist to help bring back normalcy to you and your family. Call today.

Our Southern Pines office also services Pinehurst, NC, Aberdeen, NC and surrounding towns and cities to include Raeford, NC and Sanford, NC