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In the Search of Identity Journeying With Your Teen

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In the Search of Identity: Journeying With Your Teen

As the surging hormones of your adolescent child kick into overdrive and the rest of the body follow suit, your teen is likely to experience a lot of emotions. They may become confused, scared, sulky, and guarded. They may even talk back and be outright defiant. In the thick of their “teen evolution” many parents lament that they don’t recognize their own child anymore. If this happens to you, it may be time to understand the seemingly “enigmatic” change by asking a child psychologist or counselor.

The Search of identity

Every child will go through that path in search of a positive sense of identity as they traverse the road connecting childhood and maturity – the stage of adolescence. With all the changes, they are bound to wander from the path – and they would need guidance. They are also bound to wonder who they are as they too become strangers to their own selves.

Searching for identity is important to determine where they want to go or how they would become. This is what will guide them as they pursue their lives and fulfill their life goals. Without finding their identities, they may just end up doing whatever may please others, but not what may fulfill them.

How they discover their identities may be fun, but it can also be extremely challenging or even risky for many. They may try to establish their identities through imitating people they admire, through defying the norms in an attempt to be different, through prestige, or through joining cliques to belong.

Helping and Finding Help

Through this difficult process, you are the person in the best position to help your child. They will look up to you, even if they may not openly show that. If you seem out of touch, uninterested, unsupportive or having a different take on what they should be, you may be sending the wrong signals, unintentionally pushing them away.

If understanding their search for self-identity or plight is proving difficult and resulting in anxiety or frustration, you may want to seek help for yourself to work through these reactions so that you can function well and be of help to your teen. If the chasm between you and your child seems to have gone wider or your teen seems to be manifesting depression or anxiety or other behavioral issues because of their confusion, you may want to seek help for your teen too.

Traveling with your child down the road from adolescence to maturity is doable if you’ll reach for help.

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC has independently contracted counselors who can guide you to become a positive influence to your child in a diplomatic manner. These counselors may also guide your child as they take baby steps to find their identities. Call CCS – Southern Pines, NC, so we can work together in helping your teen discover their self-identity.

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Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 246-0827 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
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  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 14+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, NCHC and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families, Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationship, Coping Skills, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting, Christian Counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare,Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC