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Managing Anxiety through Marriage Counseling


Managing Anxiety through Marriage Counseling


There is more to marriage than that lovin’ feeling. Couples face a number of hurdles to make marriage work – finances, children, and intimacy. One or most of them can put a strain into the relationship. Adding anxiety to the mixture can prove to be the final wedge, unless marriage counseling is opted for.


The Effects of Anxiety in Marriage

The Anxiety Disorder Association of America reveals that the level of anxiety on relationships is high. Although the survey is particular to Generalized Anxiety Disorder, it assumes that all types of anxiety have similar results.

  • Anxiety in marriage deters couples from engaging in usual activities they previously enjoy doing together.
  • Finances and arguments about money are considered to be one of the major sources of anxiety.
  • Communication often breaks down causing the failure to resolve conflicts or confront family problems.
  • Most of the responsibilities fall on the partner without anxiety, including caring for the afflicted spouse, children and the entire household.

When anxiety sets in the marriage, the relationship may become lopsided. The spouse without anxiety may feel bitter or angry for not receiving the needed emotional support. Yet much is expected to be given to the partner with anxiety who needs more attention but cannot reciprocate. Although guilt is felt despite knowing it is unintentional on the part of the person with anxiety to act in such way, it is common for the non-anxious partner to be depressed in some ways.


Taking a Bold Step to Manage Anxiety in Marriage

Anxiety is a volatile emotion that can easily flare up and the key to control it is to have better awareness of what triggers the feeling. Understanding anxiety, regardless of who is afflicted between you and your spouse, is the first step toward learning how to handle your situation.

Since anxiety affects the relationship and the family, it makes sense to look for a treatment option that incorporates the couple as part of the treatment program. Marriage counseling, or couples therapy, is a type of family therapy that can greatly help spouses work through various marital problems like anxiety. Seeking marriage counseling is a courageous step to save not only the partner with anxiety, but the marriage itself.


How Marriage Counseling Can Help

During marriage counseling, sessions are designed for you to attend either together or individually. You are given tips and taught strategies that both of you can use to better manage your conflicts. If your spouse is the one needing more help, your support is enlisted to provide support and assistance.

In any relationship, when half of the couple suffers from an anxiety disorder, the other half suffers as well. It is therefore important to seek timely professional help from an organization such as Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC that specializes in assisting with issues like anxiety. Your partner’s well-being, yours, your marriage and family are all important so don’t hesitate to get help to restore a productive family life.


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Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 585-6745 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare,  Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC