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Managing Anger and Frustration through Marriage Counseling


Managing Anger and Frustration through Marriage Counseling


Nothing is wrong with feeling angry or frustrated. Both of these powerful human emotions are normal, healthy and usually necessary, especially in response to hurt and fear. At the same time, anger can be destructive. It can be used to mask pain, loneliness and boredom. When unrestrained, it can become a habit, which can get out of control, negatively impacting relationships.

For most marriages, most misunderstanding may result in some anger and frustration. In time, yelling and/or angry words can become too common. It’s surprising to know that you can be most angry with the person you love. The same pattern is repeated when you feel you’re not heard, understood, and loved by your spouse. It becomes even worse when negative feelings get in the way of resolving marital issues despite efforts to communicate.


Getting Out of the Anger Trap

Being in a relationship, you may expect your partner to understand and meet your needs. When you perceive they are not met, you often feel unloved and angry. Perhaps you’ve drifted apart and so you continue to have the same arguments without resolving the issues. With anger burning in your heart, you may feel defeated and frustrated.

Anger can create a huge dent in your relationship. It doesn’t have to be that way. This highly-charged emotion can actually be utilized to provide motivation for positive change in yourself and in your relationship. You can learn processes that allow you to handle angry reactions in a way that enables you to resolve conflicts. Remember that in ideal relationships, couples resolve conflicts with a calm and tactful approach without blaming each other. YOU can learn to do this too!


Learning the Art of Getting Angry from Marriage Counseling

Excessive anger is one of the top reasons why many couples seek marriage counseling. This fact is an assurance that yours is not an isolated case. Apart from that, you’ll find good company under the care of a therapist capable of changing and improving your ways of handling this negative feeling. In a confidential setting, you’ll be helped to unlock the barriers to trust and intimacy. Once again, you’ll be able to feel the connection in your relationship and find solutions to marital problems without emotional damage.

Marriage counseling does all these. During sessions, you’ll be taught how to express anger in safe and healthy ways. Learning to use it positively for the benefit of your relationship is essential, lest it overwhelms you so that it is released in the form of aggressive behavior. Curbing rage to prevent marital distress is an important skill you will need to learn in order to restore romance in your relationship.


Handle Anger with Professional Help

You may be your spouse’s greatest source of happiness, but, you can also become your partner’s greatest pain. If you’re tired of feeling angry most of the time and believe it has taken over the respect, trust and love in your marriage, consider getting help from Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Trust CCS – Southern Pines, NC to work with you in developing techniques to resolve your anger. Call now to request an appointment.

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines NC, Pinehurst NC, Aberdeen NC, Taylortown NC, Pinebluff NC, West End NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Ashley Heights NC, Ashmont NC, Five Points NC, Wind Blow NC, Jackson Springs NC, Whispering Pines NC, Vass NC, Cameron NC, Carthage NC, Eastwood NC, Lakeview NC, Narrow Ridge NC, Robbins NC, Roseland NC, Tramway NC, Troy NC, Zion Grove NC, Biscoe NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 585-6745 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare,  Tricare Prime/Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Tracy Goldberg, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Individuals, Adolescents, Adults, Couples, Children and Families. Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Behavioral Issues, Peer Relationships, Family Conflict, Depression, Anxiety, Parenting Anxiety, ADHD, Self-Esteem Issues, Family Conflict/Divorce, Marriage Counseling, Adjustment Disorders, Relationship Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Behavioral Issues, Coping Skills, Mood Disorders, Parent Skill Building, Christian Counseling upon request
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC