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Giving Your Marriage another Chance after Infidelity


Giving Your Marriage another Chance after Infidelity

Infidelity can be considered one of the most traumatic events in a marriage due to the heartache and devastation that can be brought on by the act. Many marriages that survive infidelity find that it may take several years to rebuild the bond and trust afterwards. If you are faced with a similar situation, you may be questioning whether you can give your marriage another chance.

Asking Why

It can be hard to say what leads to infidelity. You may find yourself asking many questions and even questioning yourself. You may be presented with vague answers and fear that cheating may become a pattern in your relationship. The choice to continue on in your marriage will be up to you and a decision that only you and your spouse can make. Regardless of whether you choose to work on your marriage or separate, it can be important for the real issues to be addressed.

The Pain that Infidelity Can Bring

Being deceived by a person whom you trusted may cause you to question the future of your marriage. You may find yourself wondering whether you can share with the person you turned to for support when the pain you’re in now was caused by the same person. You may feel lonely and confused, even longing for the partner who used to provide you solace. You may feel hurt and angry, deeply wounded that your spouse broke the sacredness of your marriage vows. You may even feel overcome with rage and begin to act impulsively. Intense emotions and distress can be taxing, leading to self-defeating or self-destructive behaviors, anxiety and even depression.

Deciding to Stay Together

Infidelity can bring you to a crossroad, deciding whether to stay with your spouse or in choosing divorce. If you opt to work toward forgiveness in your marriage, it may be a difficult process. Though this process may be difficult it may be made easier with help from a professional marriage counselor.

Consider the Benefits of Counseling

Cheating can be an indication of a problem within the person who crossed the boundary line and/or a problem in the relationship. Such issues may or may not even be known to you or your spouse. It can often times be beneficial to have a non-judgmental, well-trained eye to see and lead you to finding an understanding of what may need to change in your marriage.

Look no further than Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Expert, licensed, independently contracted counselors are available to meet you and your spouse’s own unique marriage counseling needs. Therapy may be needed to heal the wounds of infidelity and restore peace and happiness in your marriage. Call now to request an appointment.

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, caring, and relaxed atmosphere in the Southern Pines/Pinehurst/Aberdeen/Raeford area. These independently contracted therapists/counselors assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, the independently contracted therapists with Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC are able and happy to assist you!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, NC, Montgomery County, NC, Richmond County, NC, Randolph County, NC, Chatham County, NC

Cities: Southern Pines, NC, Aberdeen, NC, Pinehurst, NC, Raeford,NC Carthage, NC, Vass, NC, Robbins, NC, Whispering Pines, NC, Cameron, NC, Pinebluff, NC, Foxfire, NC, Seven Lakes, NC, West End, NC, Jackson Springs, NC, Eagle Springs, NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Southern Pines, NC
780 NW Broad St. Suite 210
Southern Pines, NC 28387

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 246-0827 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

Choose your Therapist

  • Kristin Vernon, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Families, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Communication Skills, Divorce, Adjustment Disorders, Mood Disorders, Coping Skills, Parenting, Family Conflict, Marital Conflict, Relationship Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gretchen Montesanto, MA, LPC, NCC

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Teens, Individuals, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss, Stress, LGBT, Adjustment Disorder, Motivation, Life Transitions, Mood Disorders, Military Spouses

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare and Cash
    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Jaime J. Fitzpatrick MS, LPCS, LCAS

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Families and Couples, Anxiety, PTSD, Trauma and Abuse Recovery, Depression, Military Life Issues, Adjustment Disorder, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, Addictions, Emotional Disturbance, Coping Skills, Impulsivity, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, NCHC and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families, PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, family, couples and marriage counseling
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare,Cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Southern Pines, NC
  • Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
    Insurance: BCBS, NCHC, Medicare Tricare Select and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC
  • Kathryn Wiens, PsyD. HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adult, Individuals, Couples and Families.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Pinehurst, NC and Southern Pines, NC